However, creating lists about anything is always popular, so in the spirit of being a follower on the web here are 13 things I’ve learned about being a mom
13 Things I’ve learned about being a mom
1. Having a baby makes you feel old
I had my daughter at 28, but I’d like to think if I had her at 22 I’d still feel old. I love being a mom but it is a lot of responsibility. At the end of the day when she goes to bed I’m usually exhausted too. She used to go to sleep at 7:30 and some nights I was passed out by 8. Those cute babies suck the energy out of you thus making you feel old. I wouldn’t trade it for the world, but I can’t hang like I once could.
2. You don’t remember life before them
A slight exaggeration because I do remember a life before my daughter. However, last week I was driving home from work and started thinking about my life before getting pregnant. What did I do every day after I got off work? I remember happy hours now and then, but otherwise, I do not remember what I did. It’s incredible how significant events are now insignificant and feel like a lifetime ago.
3. Having dogs does not prepare you to be a parent
Go ahead and try to justify it to me but having a dog is nothing like having a baby. Your worst night with a dog will still be easier than an average night with a screaming newborn. I used to be the queen of saying my dogs would give me practice for motherhood, but I was wrong. Having pets has taught me to love unconditionally and taught me about patience, but it did not prepare me for much else. Also, dog parents do not tell a new mom how your dog is just as time-consuming as a baby. That will never hold truth, and it’s insulting.
4. Friendships change
Out of my close friends I was the first to have a baby. All of my friends were super supportive and excited for me, but the nature of my friendships changed. Friends without kids do not understand the commitment of a baby. They don’t understand you are sleep deprived, forgetful, worried about the baby and all the possible things that could happen to the baby. I would say give first-time moms a four-month buffer to figure out the whole mom thing. A lot of my friendships remained the same or grew stronger but some friendships ran their course, and it’s unfortunate but I that’s life sometimes.
5. Talking about kids 24/7 is boring
Maybe I’m the only mom who can’t talk about kids 24 hours a day seven days a week? I love my daughter; she is amazing, smart, funny, beautiful and the love of my life but I’m also realistic that no one wants to hear about every minute of our day together. To be honest, I think I’d bore myself going into that much detail with someone about our day.
I am a mom, but I’m also a wife, I have hobbies, and interests and I hope I’m still interesting on some level. I’d like to think I’m the same person just with a cute kid at my side. It’s always refreshing to meet a new mom. We talk about our kids for a bit, and then I learn who they are, what they like to do, and get to see the non-mom side of them. At this point in my life, want friends who love my baby, but we don’t need to discuss her the whole time we hang out.
6. You eat a lot quicker
I know they say to chew your food for 15-20 seconds before swallowing but what mom has time for that? It’s amazing how quickly I can eat a meal if I need to. Once kids start walking you learn to eat fast or your meal will get cold.
7. You will get jealous of your single friends
I love my daughter she is my life but, it’s not always rainbows and sunshine in my house. Some days Avery is a little terror…she doesn’t eat, she doesn’t nap, she throws tempers, she tests my patience, she screams, and she cries all within a 20 minute period. Hours of this behavior are draining. I definitely don’t have the patience of a saint but, there are a few times I have wished it were possible to take a weekend and regroup. It’s moments like those where I am jealous of my single and married friends who don’t have kids. Do I want to trade live with them? Not in the slightest but I can feel envious that people without children can decide on a whim to catch a movie, stay up all hours of the night drinking at a bar, or can take a weekend trip without worrying about a babysitter.
8. You judge other parents
What’s the saying, Don’t judge a person till you’ve walked a mile in their shoes? I think it’s easier said than done in life. I try not to judge other parents but sometimes it’s unavoidable. Do I judge the mom who has a 2-year-old throwing a tantrum in the store? No way, I have been there, and I don’t wish public tantrums on anyone. Will I judge if your kid has a bruise on their leg? Probably not, kids are clumsy. Will I judge you if you have a babysitter five days a week so you can party? Yeah, I will. If you are a teen mom and are featured on MTV, I’m judging. I also judge on minuscule things that don’t make anyone a bad parent, just small petty things. Perhaps I’m an awful person but at least I’m honest about it, and, I guarantee I’m not the only mom who judges.
9. Your parenting styles will be nothing like you planned
Confession: My daughter loves the following- Candy, chocolate, cake, cupcakes, and cookies. Does she get these all at once? She probably has. Does she get them more frequently than I’d like? Yes.
Kuddos to the parents whose kids live a sugar-free life. Please tell me what your secret is because it’s not my life. I always said Avery would only eat healthy nutritious meals and never eat junk food. Unfortunately, she had other plans for her life and only eats vegetables if dipped in ranch, not ideal, but it’s the small defeats in life, right?
I also swore she would never watch tv but when mommy needs a mental break Mickey Mouse, Yo Gabba Gabba, Paw Patrol, and Superwhy are there to rescue me and calm her down. I’ve learned I’m a typical parent in regards to this, and I’m totally okay with it. Life never goes as planned so why would parenthood?
10. Mom’s are flaky
It’s true. I’ve learned moms are the flakiest people, myself included. I’ve always had good intentions when making plans but then laziness sets in and it’s easier to use my kid as an excuse. I have the decency to do it in advance but a lot of other mom’s cancel 10 minutes before we are supposed together or don’t show up at all. It’s a pet peeve of mine, so I’ve worked to be less flaky in life because flaky people are annoying!
11 Don’t be envious of other moms
This is easier said than done. I can’t help but feel jealous of stay at home mom’s when I am at work. I’m jealous of mom’s who got to breastfeed their kids with no issues, who have a perfect eater, who are surrounded by family when my whole family is in California, who went back to their pre-pregnancy weight 2 days after having their baby and so on.
I try to remind myself that while at times I can be envious of those mom’s I’m also happy they get to be at home with their kids, lost the weight, have family nearby, and get to make healthy meals for their children. I’d like to think someone is jealous and happy for me for all the things that are great in my life. It’s natural to be envious of people at times and maybe even healthy as long as you don’t let it consume your thoughts.
12. You learn as you go
No baby book tells you how to handle every situation because if they did we would all be terrified of parenthood.. No one can adequately prepare you for vomit at 3 am or a child covered head to toe in poop. Take it as you go and trust me later on you will laugh at these situations.
13. No one is perfect:
For the record, I will never be mom of the year. Life is short so who cares if your kid doesn’t nap every day, watches more tv than you’d care to admit, has said a cuss word or two, throws a tantrum, eats sugar like there is no tomorrow, and isn’t 100% perfect all the time? At the end of the day if your kid is loved, happy, and healthy that’s all that matters. There is no such thing as a perfect parent or a perfect child. Just be the best mom you can to your child and you will have an amazing bond with your child full of wonderful memories and crazy stories. Parenthood wouldn’t be fun if you had the perfect child who never did anything wrong.